You’re allowed to choose yourself.
Many people share with me how difficult it can still be to allow themselves a pause — even when we know how important it is.
I know that feeling well.
My own quiet revolution began right there:
Because it’s easy to forget ourselves.
To set aside what we feel because there is so much to do.
So many people to take care of.
So many expectations — both from the outside and from within.
For some of us, there’s an old story living inside us that says choosing ourselves is selfish — that we risk losing connection to those we long to be loved by.
But it’s not weakness.
It’s a trauma response — a strategy that once made sense,
but that today often keeps us disconnected from ourselves and from what we truly long for.
And this is exactly what we can begin to change when we take time on the yoga mat and feel what lives within us.
Here, we can heal the patterns we no longer want to carry — or pass on.
That’s why I wrote this little text — as a loving reminder for you, for me, and for all of us.
May it be an invitation to choose yourself — wherever you are in your life:
The woman you once were —
brave, alive, sensing —
is not gone.
She may simply be waiting
for you to notice her again.
We grow into new versions of ourselves throughout our lives.
And sometimes, along the way, we forget ourselves.
But losing connection is not a mistake.
It’s the body telling us
that something has been too much —
or perhaps missing for too long.
Pausing, listening, and feeling is not selfish.
It is connection.
It is courage.
We can grow into new versions of ourselves our whole lives —
even when we don’t yet know who we are becoming.
You are more than your roles in other people’s lives.
More than the one who takes care of everything.
More than what you achieve and deliver.
Before you began to doubt
what you feel to be true —
you knew who you were.
And that knowing is not gone.
It still lives within you.
Taking responsibility for yourself —
and for what moves within you —
is also a declaration of love.
You’re allowed to choose yourself.
Again and again.
You can become your own wildest dream.
Maybe you’re already well on your way.
If this resonates with you, you can continue exploring more reflections on Internal Family Systems and self-compassion here.
And if you’re curious about the somatic IFS sessions I offer, you can learn more here.
With care,
Trine